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Last updated 2/1/2019
February is for romance. Creative romance. Here are some ideas and stats to help you show some love to your partner this month.
Valentine’s Day is upon us, but it doesn’t have to be all chocolates and roses. Research suggests that your significant other may only want one simple thing this V-day: sex. Polling has found that while most men (around 66%) say they would prefer a roll in the sack over a Valentine’s Day gift, a significant 30% of women say the same. The day of love also happens to be the holiday when millennials say they have the most sex, so strip down, aim your cupid’s bow and gift your partner the goods.
Unless it falls on a weekend, chances are high you’ll have to spend most of Valentine’s Day away from your beloved, but that doesn’t mean you can’t start turning them on from afar. Send a series of naughty texts throughout the day describing what you want to do to them, and encourage them to reciprocate for a steamy back and forth that heightens the sexual tension. Once you’re home, focus on your flirtation and spend extra time on foreplay and exploring new ways to turn your partner on, like stimulating normally ignored body parts.
It’s easy to fall into bed at the end of a long day full of work, errands and responsibility, but don’t let your sex life fall into a location rut. This Valentine’s Day, enact a no-bedroom rule for sex and give somewhere else in your living space a chance. Seventy-four percent of millennials have had shower sex, but give somewhere like your kitchen table or stairwell a try. If you’re feeling extra adventurous, find a not-so-private public space to heighten the thrill of the moment.
A whopping 71% of people say they wish they had more kink or fantasy in their sex lives. If your idea of a kinky twist is reserved solely for sub/dom leather sports but you want to give something else a try, there are plenty of options. One simple way to stoke the fire is incorporating couples toys into your intimacy and the trip to a sex shop doubles as an adventurous date for you and your partner. For your special Valentine’s Day sex, try roleplaying by pretending you’re strangers, or incorporate something more cinematic, like watching each other’s favorite porn together.
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Of course, sexytime isn’t reserved for your friends in relationships. There are plenty of ways to spice up your self-love, be it with toys, stimulating other areas of your body or exploring different brands of lubricants.
If you want in on the partner action this Valentine’s Day, dating apps make it easy to find participants who are eager to spend a no-strings-attached night in the sack. Tinder alone records a massive 2 billion swipes every day. If you do decide to find some new action by swiping right, remember Valentine’s Day is also National Condom Day, so stock up and play it safe.
Between rounds, make sure to remind your partner how much they mean to you with a romantic gesture. February is Creative Romance month, which gives you 28 days to show how much you care. Add a twist to your normal night out by recreating your first date, slip a surprise love note in your partner’s bag before they head to work, or make a dinner at home together paired with their favorite bottle of wine. Check out our Creative Romance Month calendar for some added inspiration:
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