Have you ever felt anxious before sex? It’s far from uncommon for men to feel nervous, anxious or uncomfortable before and during sexual activity -- a common problem that’s known as sexual performance anxiety.
Performance anxiety affects men of all ages, resulting in everything from premature ejaculation to erectile dysfunction. It’s a common issue with a variety of solutions, from guided imagery and other anxiety reduction techniques to medication.
In this guide, we’ll go into more detail about what performance anxiety is, how it happens and what you can do to prevent it from affecting your sexual performance.
Sexual performance anxiety is a feeling of nervousness and anxiety before and during sex. It’s extremely common, affecting men of all ages and backgrounds. It can occur for a wide range of different reasons, including:
When you experience these feelings, your body might release increased amounts of powerful stress hormones such as adrenaline, making it more difficult for you to relax and enjoy sexual activity.
For many men, this can lead to erectile dysfunction, making sexual activity more difficult and less satisfying. Sometimes, performance anxiety worsens over time, as one bad experience creates more anxiety and stress about sexual activity.
When you feel anxious, your body releases powerful stress hormones such as epinephrine (also called adrenaline) and norepinephrine. These hormones constrict blood vessels, reducing blood flow to parts of your body such as your penis.
This makes it much harder than normal to develop and keep an erection, affecting your ability to enjoy sex with your partner. Simply put, the psychological effects of performance anxiety lead to a physical response from your body that makes sex more difficult.
This means that even men with none of the main physical causes of erectile dysfunction (ED) can have trouble getting an erection if they feel anxious or nervous before sex.
Performance anxiety can happen before sexual activity or during sex. During sex, performance anxiety can make it more difficult to orgasm, as anxiety over your sexual performance can make it tough to concentrate on the physical and emotional sensation of sex.
Over time, performance anxiety can have a significant negative effect on an individual’s sex life, resulting in (for some people) a reduced level of interest in sexual activity.
Right now, there isn’t a lot of research on the physical effects of performance anxiety. However, one study from 2005 shows that performance anxiety is one of the factors most closely linked to sexual dysfunction in both men and women.
Because performance anxiety can occur for a variety of reasons, treatment usually focuses on identifying and solving the factor or factors that caused the anxiety in the first place.
Sometimes, performance anxiety can solve itself as you become more familiar and comfortable with your sexual partner. In other cases, performance anxiety can disappear as you identify and manage sources of stress in your life.
Other treatment options for performance anxiety include counseling and sex therapy to work on intimacy and sexual performance, as well as lifestyle changes aimed at reducing your total level of stress and negative thinking.
Research also shows that guided imagery, a therapeutic technique for dealing with anxiety, can be effective in helping treat sexual performance anxiety.
ED drugs like sildenafil, tadalafil and vardenafil can also be used in sexual performance anxiety treatment as a way to provide more confidence for men with sexual performance concerns. Like with all prescription medications, this is something that’s best discussed with your doctor.
Performance anxiety is a common problem that can affect anyone. For men, it can be a stressful experience -- after all, no one wants to let their sexual partner down or miss out on enjoying sex because they feel anxious and uncomfortable.
Luckily, performance anxiety can easily be fixed. From open communication with your partner to guided imagery, relaxation exercises and ED medication, there are a range of treatment options that can help you overcome performance anxiety and enjoy a healthy sex life.
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