Medically reviewed by Katelyn Hagerty, FNP
Written by Our Editorial Team
Last updated 9/23/2021
If you’re someone over 70 whose looking to spice up your sex life, or you’re looking to get back in the saddle, take a roll in the hay, toss the sheets, knock boots or do the no-pants dance, there are countless ways to enjoy yourself and stay safe while you’re making the beast with two backs — ok we’re done making sex euphemisms now, we promise!
But we’re here because sex is meant to be fun, right? And just because you’re of a certain age doesn’t mean that senior sex has to be boring or that maintaining an active sex life isn’t just as important now as it was when you were in your 20s, 30s, 40s and beyond.
On the off chance you need more convincing, let’s begin with why you should keep having sex.
Ask anyone, and you’ll probably hear that maintaining intimate relationships and participating in sexual activity makes their lives better in some capacity.
And — enter science — experts are in agreement, as evidenced by the many studies done on senior sex and its benefits.
In this study of over 6,800 adults — 3,045 men and 3,834 women with a mean age of 64.4 years in male participants and 65.3 years in female participants — showed that men who engaged in sexual intercourse at least twice a month and other activities like kissing and foreplay reported greater enjoyment of life.
In this national study exploring partnered sexuality and cardiovascular risk among older men and women, researchers affirmed that remaining physically active — including sexual activity — can help reduce stress hormone levels in both men and women.
In addition, sexual intimacy can trigger the release of oxytocin — a hormone that promotes bonding — and may help relieve stress and, as a result, enhance cardiovascular health.
While there are physical health benefits to be enjoyed from maintaining sexual relationships, there are also things to look out for as you get older to ensure you’re keeping you and your sexual partners safe.
While sexual intimacy can be great for stress relief, one study reported that while rewarding sexual relationships can have a positive effect on women’s cardiovascular health, there is no evidence to support this pattern in men.
Furthermore, having sex too frequently might be a risk factor in damaging cardiovascular events.
However, since “too frequently” is a relative term and overall cardiovascular health is a factor, it’s best to talk with your healthcare provider to see if you’re healthy enough for sex and what level of sexual activity is safe for you — especially if you have a history of cardiovascular problems like heart disease.
While the reasons for this increase vary, the important thing to remember and take away from these staggering numbers is to maintain an open and honest conversation with your healthcare provider about safe sex and to practice safe sex — like with condoms, for instance.
And if you’re curious about levels of sexual activity at different ages among men, you can read more here about what age men stop being sexually active.
Understanding the benefits of maintaining a healthy, enjoyable sex life is one thing, but actually putting it into practice is a different story.
So, to give you a little push in the right direction, here are some tips to get you started…
As women age, they begin to face hormonal changes that can cause dryness of the vaginal walls — particularly postmenopausal women.
Because of this, there can be some discomfort or even pain during sexual intercourse, so using a good lubricant — like our glide water-based lube — can make a world of difference when engaging in penetrative sex.
The ability to get and maintain an erection becomes less common the older men get. However, there are numerous ways to treat physical issues like erectile dysfunction so that you can act on your sexual desires without having to skip a beat.
For example, you can book a free virtual visit to find out if one of our FDA-approved ED medications is a safe and healthy option for you.
Loss of erection is no fun, regardless of your age.
We can’t stress this one enough! When you practice safe sex by using condoms, both you and your sexual partner (or partners — no judgment here, you old dogs!) can relax knowing that you’re decreasing the risks of transmitting sexually transmitted infections.
But we’re not done with our safe sex rant yet. Staying safe also includes talking with your healthcare provider about what level of sexual activity is safe for you and if you’re healthy enough to take certain ED medications.
Just because you’re over 70 doesn’t mean you can’t get creative. If you’re feeling adventurous, consider exploring different sex toys like vibrators, massagers and sex pillows. Incorporating sexual aids like these can help increase your pleasure as well as your partners.
Sex doesn’t have to come with a lot of pressure. It also doesn’t have to come with penetration. If you’re not ready for penetrative sex or simply don’t enjoy it anymore there are plenty of ways to share physical intimacy with a romantic partner.
Kissing, massaging, caressing, and oral sex are all options that can be pleasurable.
Age doesn’t have to dictate your sexual life. As long as you’re having safe and consensual sex, acting on your sexual desires and maintaining intimate romantic relationships can be a healthy part of your life.
And if getting and maintaining an erection is something you experience, you can find more information and helpful tips on How to Get a Hard-On After 65.
Ultimately, it’s up to you to keep an open dialogue with your healthcare provider and sexual partners about sex.
Stay safe, have fun and know that you’re only as old as you feel.