Medically reviewed by Katelyn Hagerty, FNP
Written by Our Editorial Team
Last updated 7/21/2021
Sex is a natural and enjoyable part of life. If you’re in a relationship, it’s normal to have sex on a regular basis. And sometimes, this might mean having sex more than once a day.
Like with many other pleasurable things, though, it’s common to assume that having sex often must have certain downsides.
The reality is that having sex daily is not bad for you, and it often provides real benefits for both your physical and mental health.
That said, there are a few things you should be aware of if you and your partner spend a lot of time in the bedroom on a daily basis.
Read on for answers to common questions about having daily sex, from whether or not it’s “normal” to how it can affect your health and wellbeing. You’ll also find a few tips and tactics you can use to avoid common sex-related issues that may pop up if you have sex every day.
It’s in our nature to compare ourselves to others, especially when it comes to sex. And as a result, just about every couple has pondered whether or not their sex life — including sexual frequency — is normal.
The reality is that when it comes to frequency of sex, there’s really no such thing as “normal.”
Some couples might average a romp once per day. Others might only have sex once every few weeks.
Sexual behavior is hugely varied, meaning there’s no precise “normal” amount of sex that applies to everyone.
The average frequency of sex varies widely based on age. In general, younger couples (in their 20s and 30s), have sex the most often, with frequency of sex declining consistently as people grow older.
Based on this data, we can conclude that having sex every day puts you above the average for American adults, assuming you can keep this schedule going year round.
However, average doesn’t mean normal. While having sex every day means you’re getting it on more than the average adult, it doesn’t mean you’re abnormal, weird or that you’re doing anything wrong.
Sex is like anything else in life: sometimes you feel like it, and sometimes you don’t. When you and your partner are really in the mood for sex (for example, when you first start living with each other), it’s far from uncommon to have sex every day.
However, it’s also very common and normal to go for several days without sex, especially if you have a full, demanding schedule that limits the amount of time you spend with your partner.
Put simply, it’s completely normal and alright to have sex several times a day, once a day, once every few days or not at all.
No. There’s no scientific evidence that shows that having sex every day is bad for your physical or mental health. There’s also no evidence for any “optimal” or “perfect” frequency for healthy sex life.
With this said, having sex very often — for example, several times per day — may lead to certain physical issues. As a man, you could develop soreness in your penis, especially if you and your partner have rough or forceful sex.
It’s also possible for women to develop soreness from frequent sex. If you don’t use lubrication, the friction caused by the back-and-forth motion during sex may cause you and/or your partner to develop irritation.
These issues usually get better on their own over a few hours or days. In the meantime, it’s best to take it easy and enjoy a break. You’ve certainly earned it.
Another thing to keep in mind is that sex, just like any activity, can become a distraction when it takes over your life.
If your sex life is getting in the way of your job, studies, ability to pay bills or other aspects of your life, it might be worth scaling it back a notch.
No. In fact, most of the research currently available suggests that men who have sex on a regular basis are less likely to develop erectle dysfunction than men who rarely have sex.
In a study published in the American Journal of Medicine, Finnish researchers found that regular sex (defined as sex once per week or more) seems to protect against the development of ED in middle-aged and elderly men.
A more recent study carried out in China produced similar results, with researchers noting that men who reported having sex at least one time per week were less likely to have ED and more likely to show signs of good cardiovascular health.
Now, it’s important to note that you might find it difficult to get and stay hard all time time if you and your partner have sex several times per day.
This is a result of your refractory period — the period of time after ejaculation during which you won’t be able to get an erection. This period can last just a few minutes or several hours.
Your refractory period might affect your erections in the short term, but it generally isn’t thought of as a form of erectile dysfunction.
Frequent sex is a good thing that can improve your physical and mental health and the quality of your relationship with your partner.
With this said, here are ways to make regular sex easier, healthier and more enjoyable:
Use protection. It’s important to keep yourself protected, especially if you have sex with more than one person. Hims’ Ultra Thin Condoms are designed to keep both you and your partner protected without reducing sensitivity.
Use lubrication. Sex is no fun when excess friction is involved. If your partner is prone to dryness or if you’re starting to chafe, consider applying a lubricant such as hims’ Glide Water-Based Lube.
If you have ED, treat it. Erectile dysfunction is a common issue that can get in the way of your sex life. If you occasionally find it difficult to stay hard, use ED medication to get the problem under control.
Avoid overexerting yourself. Sex is a mild form of exercise. As such, it’s best to take it easy if you’re feeling under the weather, recovering from an injury or if you’ve recently undergone surgery.
Be creative. From trying different positions to fantasies and more, mixing things up is one of the best ways to make your sex life more exciting. This guide to having better sex lists six tips you and your partner can try for more pleasurable, satisfying sex.
Having sex every day isn’t bad for you. In fact, research suggests that frequent sex may help reduce your risk of developing erectile dysfunction.
When it comes to sex, there’s no “perfect” frequency. It’s most important to have fun, stay safe and enjoy sex the way you and your partner like — without worrying about how you stack up next to other people.
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