We all have that friend who likes to get on a high horse about Valentine’s Day. Every year, they give you the same old speech about how it’s a made up holiday that doesn’t matter and if you care about it, you’re merely taking part in a meaningless spectacle. And good for that guy. We hope he enjoys all that the "freedom" in his "epic bachelor pad." If you're in a relationship—or even just passively observe Valentine's Day as an opportunity to show that special someone in your life you care about them—it may seem like a make-or-break moment for you. And if you’re single and don't rant on Facebook about Valentine's Day being a "Made up Hallmark holiday," it can make you feel isolated and alone.
Whether you're spending this year alone or just trying not to choke on the big day, we have some tips and tricks for you to observe:
Talk To Your Partner
Not everyone is into grand romantic gestures. In fact, some people find it a bit nauseating. You shouldn’t assume that your partner will totally be onboard with some big, extravagant dinner. A couple weeks before V-Day, talk to your significant other about their expectations. They might be less into it than you think, which makes things a little easier, far as planning goes. If they tell you that this holiday is indeed significant to them, you should plan accordingly.
Either way, your preparation for Valentine's Day should start with some good ol' fashioned communication.
Plan In Advance
Valentine’s Day is undoubtedly a popular holiday. A 2017 study found that Americans spend $18.2 billion each year. The last thing you want is for the special day to come around and have to stay at home because all restaurants are at capacity. That’s why it’s best to plan in advance and call restaurants two weeks—or even a month, depending on how popular the place is—ahead of time and make a reservation. If you’re planning on buying your significant other a special gift, you should also plan accordingly to ensure that nothing sells out.
After a while in a relationship, it can be hard to be surprised. Maybe Valentine’s Day is the ideal opportunity for you to switch things up a little bit and get creative. Don’t settle for the box of chocolates, flowers and fancy Italian dinner. Try something new. Try something fun. Try something your partner or date won't see come. It doesn't have to be crazy or intense, but definitely take some time to think about something fun and special for them. Go out salsa dancing. Rent a hot air balloon. Hire a choir to sing your lover’s favorite '90s pop song. Learn how to make sushi and surprise your partner with a platter of mouth-watering spicy tuna rolls.
Or, hey, learn how to make sushi and surprise yourself with a platter of mouth-watering spicy tuna rolls, you big beautiful bastard! The point is, think outside the box. What do they like? What do you like? What can you do together.
[Editor's Note: We're not so sure about that whole, "hire a choir" bit, but uhhhh, to each their own, we guess.]
Have A Mutual Budget For Gifts
People like to receive—and show—love in different ways. Some people don't mind spending boat loads of money on extravagant gifts, while others don't like making a big fuss. If you feel like it's worth talking about, make sure to communicate to your partner, significant other or date what is and isn't okay.
It can be pretty awkward to have your partner shell out on a big, fancy gift only for you to not reciprocate the gesture. To avoid this excruciatingly awkward scenario, make sure to agree on a mutual budget for gifts. This way, nobody gets embarrassed or uncomfortable.
Throw A Party
Some couples don’t necessarily want to do the whole special night out thing. But that doesn’t mean you have to check out of it completely. A Valentine's Day party is an excellent excuse to bring friends and acquaintances together under one roof.
It takes a lot of pressure and tension off of everything. You can keep the party to couples only, or open things up for your single friends, too. Hey, who knows, you could have thrown the famous party that brought So-And-So and So-And-So together that they talk about on their wedding day.
Either way, have fun.
If You’re Single: Embrace The Freedom
Every year on social media, an ironic hashtag “#NationalSingleAwarenessDay trends the day following Valentine’s Day. Though the social media holiday is tongue-in-cheek, there’s a subtle expectation to the phenomenon: if you’re single in mid-February, you should feel ashamed and sad. However, this type of over-the-top self-deprecating attitude will only make things worse. Instead of succumbing to melodrama, embrace the freedom of being single.
Don’t spend hours obsessively checking social media to see what all your couple friends are doing. You should approach this day as an excuse to treat yourself. Get a nice dinner or buy your favorite ice cream and then put on a fun movie. If you don’t want to be alone, reach out to friends to see if they would like to go out. Whatever you do, just know that there’s nothing wrong with being single on Valentine’s Day.
Prepare For The Bedroom
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Regardless of your relationship status, just know that a ton of other people are also feeling a bit anxious about Valentine’s Day. Are you looking for more lifestyle tips? Check out our blog.