Every year, when fall comes around, the internet lights up with jokes about cuffing season. According to the meme, people spend the colder months with a recently “cuffed” significant other — favoring Netflix-and-chilling over going out on the town to meet new people.
And though this might seem like nothing but a social media joke, there’s evidence that it’s a legitimate phenomenon. A survey conducted by the dating app Hinge found that men were “15% more likely to be looking for a relationship” during the winter. As the days get much shorter and temperatures take a dive, you too might be tempted to take part in this dating ritual. Check out these rules of engagement for cuffing season and proceed with caution.
You might start having sex exclusively with one partner during cuffing season. But monogamy doesn’t guarantee safety. Talk to your partner about getting tested together for Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and stock up on condoms. Here are a few condom brands that are great for those who prefer a more natural feeling:
In addition, you should talk to your partner about your herpes status. If you or your partner do get cold sores, there’s no need to panic. With hims’ cold sore kit, you can prevent flare-ups by taking a daily antiviral medication called valacyclovir (Valtrex).
Cuffing season might come with a lot of expectations for sex. When you’re experiencing erectile dysfunction, however, these expectations can be frustrating. But instead of getting upset with yourself, you can be proactive and find a readily available solution. You should be open with your partner about what you’re experiencing and be transparent that you’re seeking out solutions. In addition to therapy, you can look into scientifically proven treatment like Sildenafil that helps blood flow to the penis better. The best part of these treatments? Not only do they work, you can get them delivered to your door so you don’t have to go to a pharmacy — ideal for cuffing season.
Even if you’re deeply in love with your new partner, there’s always a chance that one of you will start feeling bored after a few weeks. Since its cold out, you can’t always go out for walks in the park or go bar hopping. You will have to find a way to feel entertained while staying mostly indoors. Luckily, there are a lot of options. Feeling sick of Netflix? Check out FilmStruck’s diverse collection of movies. Maybe you guys can start getting into boardgames or start playing cards. This could also be a great opportunity to pick up a hobby together like cooking. With online food delivery services like Blue Apron and HelloFresh, you can get ingredients sent to your home. This is the perfect time to experiment with new, outlandish recipes. By the time cuffing season is over, both of you could very will be incredible chefs.
Yes, it may seem awesome to be spending all this time with your new partner, but both of you should try to spice things up every once in a while and spend a night out. Though it might be freezing, there’s no reason why you can’t occasionally go see a movie or meet up with friends. Spending some time apart away from your partner could also be great for your relationship. Just because its cuffing season doesn’t mean you can’t indulge in the old activities you enjoyed as a single person.
Regardless if you find a partner or not, you should never lose sight that a romantic relationship doesn’t guarantee happiness. Our culture put a lot of pressure on obtaining cinematic, unrealistic ideals of love. But there’s nothing wrong with not taking part in cuffing season whatsoever and just doing you.
If you do find yourself with a new partner this cuffing season, however, be prepared that things might change once it gets warmer outside. According to one psychologist, warmer weather makes people more inclined to break up. Even a Facebook analysis of relationship statuses found that people “uncuff” during warmer months. So, be prepared that your winter romance might be fleeting. But just as its perfectly okay to skip out on cuffing season, there’s no reason why you have to succumb to some gloomy statistic in the spring. If the relationship is great and the passion is still there, mazel tov!
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